Vulnerability and security....is there a point of convergence?

Its been 4 months since i posted something on my blog...yes and i do have the usual most common excuse.."Life's been really busy". Anyway i guess the topic that i intend to write about has had a deep impact on me and so i had to steal time to express what i feel.
Being into a relationship for sometime now i realize how important it is to feel secure about the relationship and how very vulnerable it makes you to the other person. And "NO ONE WANTS TO BECOME VULNERABLE TO ANYONE IN TODAYS SCENARIO"...and so all of us want to play safe! Look at the irony finally one starts feeling insecure about being vulnerable to another person just in order to find security...gosh! its a viscious circle.
I see my friends who are "committed" seeing other couples breaking-up and ruining their own relationships by applying or trying to apply the same situation on there own relation. Come on how stupid can that be. There are friends who come to me and say "Shveta, even though we are going strong , i am trying to maintain a distance so that if in future things dont work out or we break up, none of us is hurt and esp I should not be hurt. I love him/her but i dont want to so vulnerable to him/her that he/she starts taking me for granted or hurts me when we break off."
For god sake...how on the earth can one get into any relationship for that matter...where you are always trying to play safe and where you are scared of being vulnerable but you want to feel secure at the same time! I see no point of convergence any where! It is this mentality and this attitude in people now days that relationships fail miserably.
The only solution i recommend is that you got to trust a little more, do not rush into realtionships, take time to express your feeling, make sure that you strongly feel for someone and its not just infactuation and that you are not scared to let the skeletons fall off from your cupboard in front of him/her and that you can be yourself all the time. That is when we can arrive at a point of convergence. Trust, Patience and an open mind is all it needs to make things work and to make life happy!

Between Friends

Yes the girl in the picture on your right is my best friend. She s the one person who is always with me through all seasons, all my moods and sometimes she just arrives when I need her the most and am least expecting her! I meet her atleast 3 times a week and after that we feel that we are always short of time to complete our conversations. After I joined my MBA we have been meeting regulary but its always been not more than an hour that we could spend with each other and talk, we would meet to go shoppin together or to discuss some thing important etc.

Some 5 days back we both met up to exchange some stuff and it so happened that we both had time to spare and spent 5 hours just talking and listening what the other had to say. And by the time we headed back it felt as if even though we had been meeting regulary we never really knew what exactly is going on in each others lives...as in our views on things happening in our life, our reactions, our expectations, our frustrations, our dreams....we could never find the time to express these in the short timeperiods that we meet for. But after this lovely evening that we spent together I felt so relieved, so light and at the same time so much more aware of what she means to me :).
Well i guess they are so right when they say:

" The biggest gift you can ever give anyone or ever receive from anyone is your/their time"
Its all that you need to catch up with everything in life!

Child Locks...A Parent Trap!!!

Gosh! kids now days are such smart asses!!!A few days back I was travelling to Goa with my uncle and a "small" cousin...who was jus 4 years old. My uncle had borrowed his friend's car and was really glad that the car was equipped with a child lock facility as my cousin is a really notorious boy. While handing over the car keys my uncle's friend explained to him the car locking n unlocking mechanism and during that time my cousin was playing around. So finally we left for Goa and soon after we got into the car again after our first halt in the journey...my uncle got into the car and it wouldnt start at all and after trying all tricks for 5 mins he realised that he needed to unlock the child lock thru the remote and only den would the car start! So he had to get out of the car lock it and then unlock it again...and guess what this happened each time we halted every time new confusion in order to avoid the earlier mistakes.
And the best part about each time this happened was that it was my cousin who would point out what my uncle was doing wrong! He would say "Papa ...aise karo to car start hogi" each time we would get stranded and each time he was right!
So with the kids getting just too techno savvy and smart by the day...I really dont think child locks are gonna make things easy for parents and its rather gonna make their life even more complex and to add to this would be that the parents would finally need the children to unlock themselves from the trap they got locked into!!!

A night to remember!

After a really long time I enjoyed "Saturday Night" no clubbing, no boozing, no getting wild....infact a perfect saturday night according to my definition of one. A group of 4 people who got to meet up each other that very evening and by the end of it were cool buddies! We went to this lovely restaurant called "SOUL" in ABC farms at Koregaon Park.

Enter Soul and embrace all the elements that rejuvenate your soul – nature, art, music, literature and great food. Flanked by coconut and palm trees, Soul is a restaurant where you can simply be yourself, unwind, relax and enjoy great food and music. It’s the ideal place to sway to music from the 50s to 70s. It has an inviting rustic and earthy appeal created by wooden paneling and tables, wrought iron chairs and greenery. Well-spaced, candle-lit tables and a split-level arrangement help create your own cozy private space. A very relaxing ambience... a cool breeze blowing and best of all "GARY LAWYER" performing the timeless western classics of the 70's and the 80's numbers of Elton John,Bon Jovi,Dire Straits,Bob Dylan,Bryn Adams and numerous rock and roll numbers and almost all of them my favourites :) and to add to the best was that the gathering was of not more than 60 people who were all appreciating the music,singing along in the best of manners.It started with some really romantic numbers and I realised I was just flowing with the music for the two hours that this great artist performed. And how can I forget the awesome food and drink that went alongside. Finally after the performance a quiet dinner at the same place was such a dream come true!

Guess that was not enough coz after that we all planned to go to Chandini Chowk CCD for a nice hot cup of coffee. Reached there at 1 am and till 3:30 am we were busy chatting and formulating future plans! And finally when i got to bed at 4 am....I was all smiles as this was the best Saturday Night I had after ages and the best part was the company I had through out coz I believe that nothing can be better that "Being at the right place at the right time with the right people!" and this night fulfilled all three :).

"Serendipity"....do you believe in destiny?

This article is inspired by someone who by the end of my first meeting with him made me realise that there is something called destiny and that probably my meeting this person was destined to be :).

Won't get into the details of my serendipity with this person but all I would want to say is that getting to know him just happened! One moment and we became friends without putting in any effort to do so. And to confess the truth I always wanted to get to know this person but had just no possible reason or means to approach him and in just four days its him asking me "Do you believe in destiny? Do you ever feel that the people you are destined to meet some people in your life?"

And as usual I carried these lines with me that night and gosh!...now it made me go back in time and analyse the various situations through which i ended up becoming friends to some really wonderful people and yes...they were not meant to be otherwise.....most of the people just come along on your way to life but some few appear from no where and leave an indeliable mark on you and become your best buddies!

So if sometime you find some time free just give it a thought.Go back in time and think of the people and things that are around you at present and just try to analyse as to how many out of these were the ones whom you expected or knew you would meet some day. I must tell you its really amusing because I did end up smiling to myself after going through this.

We are all tied together in a single garment of destiny... An inescapable network of mutuality... I can never be what I ought to be until you are allowed to be what you ought to be.

My Claim to Fame :(

I guess most of you wolud have guessed by now how i managed my claim to fame! Here is the story of "How Shveta Sharma got daring,got crazy and got famous!"....

It was a fine Wednesday morning and I was sitting in class waiting for the economics Prof. whom I just cannot stand but had no choice but be present for "90% Attendence sake". The attendence was taken and as the teacher walked out of the class for a while there was this adrenaline rush within me that urged me to jump out of my class room window as soon as possible. To give you the facts:
Jumping height: 6.5ft from the ground
Time available: 6-10 seconds (includes climbing up d window and jumping down)
Outfit: Traitional Indian Suit and HIGH HEELS

So I rushed towards the window throw my sandals out,climb the chair get on the window grill...all 50 pair of eyes(my classmates) focused at me and very confidently as i jumped out, my foot lost its grip,slipped and while my class mates thought of it as an act of bravery and were all praises...On my odessey to the ground I was prayin to god to help me "ATLEAST LAND SAFELY"....and there I was on the ground landing on my Butts! The cushion that i had helped me in no possible way :(! Had no time to assemble my self well so just ran to my room before I cud get caught. Reached my room and I realised that I had hurt my lower back and tail bone badly :( I could not move.could not sit or even lei on my back for hours after that!

And about me getting famous...the moment i stepped out of room the most unfamiliar faces walk up to me with a smile(trying to hide their laughter) asking me how was I doin!!!And I must tell you that never in my entire stay at SIMS did i ever get so famous for the "GOOD" things done as this stupid and really embarassing incident did to me!
But then me as my usual self was laughing more than others and always with them too at the whole thing. So finally I really don't care about being embarassed anymore coz the brighter side is that after that day people around know who Shveta Sharma is and yeah I ended up knowing a lot more batch mates of mine after this! So allz well that ends well and this was my story of how I finally got famous in college with no effort put in at all!

Ultimate benefit of having HOBBIES!

Two days back we had a class for Resume writing in college. We were asked to get a copy of our resumes and one by one the guy asked us to show him the resume and he individually suggested us the changes required to be made in the existing resume.
So after a while came my turn, I very proudly handed my resume to him which according to my classmates was really impressive. He goes through the resume and yes does mention that it is pretty impressive with a few minor changes required. Finally he reached the last section of the resume titled: "HOBBIES AND INTERESTS".... and it takes him a 20 seconds to "recite" the list of my hobbies and interests! (just for the anxious ones the list included: biking,travelling,dancing, blogging, collecting poems, letter writing, meeting new people, listening to music.....).
Finally he looks at me smiles and says " ITS REALLY COOL INFACT GREAT TO HAVE SO MANY HOBBIES AND INTERESTS......THE ONLY TIME THAT YOU' L REALLY NEED THEM FOR A USEFUL PURPOSE WOULD BE AFTER YOUR RETIREMENT WHEN YOU HAVE NOTHING TO DO!!!"
Gosh! that was so damn cool! He puts his point across asking me to cut short that exhaustive list and at the same time makes me realise.....THE ULTIMATE BENEFIT OF HAVING HOBBIES!!!